🌸Thoughts of a Single Mom🌸

Encouragement, faith, inspiration, & self-love!

Finding YOU again! — October 13, 2019

Finding YOU again!

Heeeeyyyy my blogger friends! It’s been a long time since I’ve done a blog. I needed to take some time off to reflect & center myself again. I hope each of you are doing great & life is treating you well! 🙂 So many things have taken place since I’ve last posted but life is good & I won’t complain. I have a 22 yr old as of tomorrow, 19 & 12 year old now. My whole life has been about my children (not saying this in a bad way), raising them the right way, loving & making sure they had everything they needed. With two being grown now & just me and little momma, I really need to find myself again, find those things that bring me joy, things I like to do. I have to get back in tune to what makes momma truly happy. It’s so easy to forget! I do know that I love blogging! It gives me that chance to open my heart & thoughts. So I’ve decided to dive back into it. To that single momma who feels as if you’ve lost yourself, take a moment to regroup & reflect but more importantly enjoy the journey! You will find that thing again!

Until next time,

Neta

Dating — July 13, 2018

Dating

Hey mommas! I hope all is well and each of you had a great 4th of July with family and friends! As you all know my passion is to encourage, motivate, and inspire other single moms who are having a hard time navigating through life. It’s not easy to say the least! One topic I’m sure you guys have noticed I haven’t wrote on was dating. Well, let’s just say, it hasn’t been easy! I’m definitely in a much different head space and don’t have the time for pettiness, (I’m just being honest). I found that when I was dating, (and I am 40), that men still played the games, they still acted as if they were teenagers and right now I have no interest all. I say that because I’m trying to build and not tear down, I want to leave a legacy for my children and don’t need unnecessary distractions hindering me, and also, I want my girls to know that they never have to settle! Now, I’m not saying that I wouldn’t love to be in a loving and supportive relationship but what I’m saying is, the relationship should benefit the both of us, it should bring out the best of us, and it should add value. Anything that takes away, and make you feel less than, is a distraction, trust me, I’ve learned the hard way!

I’ve learned to be content with where I am right now in my life. Yes, I want marriage, but this time, I want the Lord to send him to me! I have endured enough heartache, and pain in this life time and I know I deserve better, so until then, I will remain working on me, building, and trying to leave a legacy for my children.

Ladies, no matter how lonely you are, how much you love him, etc, if he is not loving you back, showing you the respect you deserve, it’s not worth it! You deserve a King, a man that loves you just as God does, a man that will stand up for you, protect you, a man that will NEVER hurt your heart! I know, it’s easier said then done but trust me, in due time you will have the King that you are suppose to be with, I promise!

Until next time,

Neta

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God’s Grace — June 26, 2018

God’s Grace

Happy Monday everyone!! I hope all is well with you and your family! I have to say my mind has been all over the place and ALWAYS trying to figure out something; looking for work, trying to figure out my next move, etc. Today, I was really bothered by some things. There have been so many people that know very little about myself and kids, that have reached out, whether that be through prayer, or a message on social media, and I have family members, and friends, (I guess), that don’t even check in, whether that be a text, a phone call, a hug, encouragement, just to let us know we are in their thoughts. That really bothered me once I got to thinking about it. I’m all about being there for individuals because you never what people are really dealing with. You never truly know how heavy of a load that may be caring day after day. So it saddens me to see this so often. I realize everyone has things they may be dealing with, but it won’t take but a second just to reach out to someone else that you know is having a hard time, only a sec.

But anyway, as I got myself together and came to realize that everyone is not me, and you can’t make people do anything, I also realized what I’m looking for or expecting from people, I should only be expecting from God! HE is always there in good times and bad, HE is there to listen and also has my best interest in mind. HE gives us grace every single day! The Grace of God is the unmerited, undeserved, unearned, favor, and kindness of God. (Pastor Mike-Transformation Church) The Lord doesn’t want me to become bitter because I feel like people should show up for me just as I do for them, no, HE wants me to still be the friend I am, and only look to HIM for the things I need in my life to move forward. HE didn’t put us here to struggle our entire life and we won’t!

Some people feel they don’t deserve God’s Grace. Let me tell you, no one is perfect, we all mess up, BUT when you come to God with a sincere heart, the Lord will show you HIS Grace and Mercy. God’s Grace should empower us! We are all on this journey together! Every day may not be perfect, we will have difficulties, some more extreme than others, but we WILL make it!!

Keep your head up and I am praying for you!

Until next time,

Neta

 

Life Coaching/Counseling — June 17, 2018

Life Coaching/Counseling

Life coaching and Counseling are very valuable programs for any individual that wants and need the help. I have had both in the past & will say they both have changed my view & in some instances have changed my thought process on particular things. There are so many individuals who are suffering in silence, who have had so many hardships and no support system that have given up. I know, I have been there. I have to say it’s not easy! Oftentimes, it’s not always easy to speak with family and friends about certain issues specifically if they’ve never experienced it before. If you’ve never been in those shoes, how can you relate, how can you say how someone is suppose to deal with a certain situation?

My passion is helping other single moms that are struggling, who want better lives for themselves & their children. It doesn’t matter what it is big or small. While life coaching and counseling are valuable tools to help you progress through life, it can be very difficult for a single mom to pay for these services, as we can barely at times keep food on the table.

With that being said, I pray someday to be able to offer these services to single mommas that are out here trying to make a way for their children & also wanting to better themselves in the process. I pray I will be able to offer these services & more, free!

I’m praying for you mommas & know that God has us in the palm of his hand!

Until next time,

Neta

Heart’s Desire — June 14, 2018

Heart’s Desire

Many times in life, I have felt as if I have missed the mark. I look around at others and see how far they’ve come in life; have houses, great jobs, married and appear to be really happy and living the life. Me on the other hand, has struggled the mass majority of my life, trying to provide for my children and better myself all at the same time. The mom is responsible or takes responsibility to make sure the children are good, and the man (father), is out living the life. What makes matter’s worse is when that father talks so negatively about the mom; never gives her credit about anything and at the same time he doesn’t contribute to the child as he should but wants all the credit. That’s really disheartening! I oftentimes think, will my children always see my struggle, will I ever be in a place where we are comfortable and I don’t have to rely on others, or will I ever be in a place of pure joy and happiness?

Ever since I was a little girl, I knew I had a calling on my life! I knew there was something major for me to do! My heart and passion is to help other single moms who have lost themselves, who feel like giving up, or who don’t have the support system they need. One day, my dream will come to pass! We can have our heart’s desire, but we must not give up! The scripture says in Luke 1:45, “Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her”, and in Romans 2:11, it states, “God is no respecter of persons”; what HE’s doing for everyone else, he can surely do for me!

So with that being said, tonight your heart may be heavy, you may feel all alone, but please know, God will never leave us and giving up is not an option! It’s a must that we keep the faith and know that when we’ve been doing the same thing and getting the same results, we have to do something different to get different results!  I’m praying for you and know that God loves you and so do I!! 💕

Until next time,

Neta

 

My Sons Graduation Day! — May 25, 2018
Senior Prom 2018 — April 23, 2018
My one and only son!⛹️‍♂️🏀🏈📘💙 — April 20, 2018

My one and only son!⛹️‍♂️🏀🏈📘💙

My son, my protector! He is always trying to protect his mom from anything that may be of hindrance to my life. It’s almost like he could sense when something just wasn’t right. I cannot tell you the thoughts that ran through my head, the stigmas that were already placed on single moms from the beginning but a single mom raising a young man. Society says single moms raising boys don’t know how to raise a young man, that they would likely end up in prison, on drugs, etc. In saying this, what choice are we as single moms left with when raising our young men. We can’t force the dads to have a part of their lives. So we have to do what we have to and that’s taking caring of that child. I must say, I have raised three kids on my own, my son is the second to be going off to college in the Fall and graduating next month from high school. He has played ALL sports in school and has high hopes of playing pro. He has the mentally of a winner, not a failure! He is striving daily to become the man his father couldn’t. I am beyond proud of my son! He is going to do great things in this life because he wants to be GREAT! He will be attending his senior prom tomorrow, so pics will be coming soon!

So single momma’s no matter what the world says, we are doing a magnificent job! Give yourself a pat on the back!

Until next time,

Neta

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Having a Tribe — April 19, 2018

Having a Tribe

What do you do when it appears your life is a constant roller coaster, a series of highs and lows, but mostly lows? Every area of your life is under attack. You know that you’re not perfect but you treat people right, take care of your children, be there for people but YOU are always struggling. Could you continue to keep smiling? Would you wonder, why keep doing what’s right when right doesn’t come to you. Drake’s new single, “Nice for what”, resonates with me on so many levels. This world can be so cruel, and it frightens me what our children will have to endure possibly one day. Whatever happened to people being there for one another, women in particular? Having a tribe of women that come together, celebrating one another, would make all the problems in life appear less daunting because you will have someone in your corner. We need to build & not tear down! There are so many people that are living in silence, that are going through so much in life, smiling on the outside, but dying on the inside. They don’t have anyone they can go to have a simple conversation, a simple outlet. Reach out to that strong person in your life because trust me, he or she can’t be strong all the time!

Until next time,

Neta

Boundaries! — March 13, 2018

Boundaries!

While it’s been a moment since I’ve had the chance to blog, but it’s given me a chance to really put myself into check. Yes, sometimes we as women forget that we have to say no to certain things that cause us discomfort or cause toxicity in our lives. While I’m in the stages of learning myself all over again, I’ve come to realize that in the past, I wasn’t setting healthy boundaries in my life. It was hard for me to say no. I would allow people to hurt me time and time again because I wouldn’t take a stand in my life. I allowed it. I felt like I wouldn’t get better or I didn’t want to be alone. Can anyone relate? It could also be something like not standing up for myself when it came to jobs, family members, friends, etc. I would just go along with whatever so to speak. In return this made me feel horrible! I felt like I wasn’t respected and valued. People didn’t care how they began to treat me.

The reason was because I allowed this time and time again. You know the saying,”You show people how to treat you”. This statement couldn’t be more true. It’s vital that we set healthy boundaries and not let people take us for granted. We have to step up for ourselves & know that if we don’t, no one else will.

Until next time,

Neta